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1. Loneliness is OK.

You will feel lonely from time to time. Maybe all of the time. Even in rooms full of people, you will feel alone. This does not mean that you are broken, or unlovable, or worthless. It simply means that you are utterly and beautifully human. Don’t try so hard to fill this space. Sit with it, feel it, write about it, make art with it. Your sadness will prove useful someday. Hold it close and embrace it.

2. The only constant is change.

Enjoy the late nights in beanbag-furnished living rooms, the aimless drives at 2AM to see the snow, afternoons sprawled out on the lawn doing nothing but staring at stray wisps of cloud. You will never again have all of your friends living in the same place. You will never again roam the halls of your college, books spilling from your arms…

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“10 Things People Who Don’t Really Have Any Exes Understand”

I’ve been sitting on this headline for three weeks now. It’s relatable. It hasn’t really been done before. It has the potential to be really funny.

But it’s a lie.

It’s my way of reaching out to the “Eternally Single” audience without actually admitting how eternally single I am. Later, I can write fun pieces about casual relationships or dating, and no one will think anything of it.

But the thing is, it’s not that I don’t really have any exes; I just don’t have any. There aren’t any shades of grey to the matter. I’ve never been on a date, and the number of people I’ve flirted with is very safely in the low single digits.

I haven’t gone on a date with anyone partially because no one’s ever asked, and partially because the idea of dating…

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1. You have three hairstyles: down, ponytail, and bun.

2. You have one pair of shoes that you wear with 95% of your wardrobe.

3. Most of your outfits are just some combination of t-shirts and jeans.

4. This makes getting ready massively easy. What are you going to wear? Throw on the first pair of jeans and t-shirt you can find. Put on aforementioned shoes. Boom. Done.

5. Sundresses are also great because they look like you put more effort into getting ready, but you definitely didn’t.

6. You have to be very clear with your hairstylist that you need a cut that’s easy to maintain, because you’re not about that life. Your idea of styling your hair is making sure the part is nice, and if you’re feeling fancy, throwing a clip or headband up there.

7. You find make up a little terrifying. You understand…

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1. Whelp. They’re cute.

2. What are words? LOLOL help.

3. Jordan, what a lovely name. Must not forget that.

4. Jordan Jordan Jordan Jordan Jordan Jordan Jordan Jordan

5. Wait, what are they talking about?


7. Make eye contact, you dummy.

8. How do I exist as a functioning human being when I can hardly look at this person?

9. Have I smiled yet? Or am I just staring with an occasional blink?

10. Okay, smile a bit and nod like they said something funny.

11. Oh god they’re talking to me. Say something witty.

12. Seriously, talk.



15. Well, I guess some of that could be considered somewhat coherent in a few languages.

16. I wish I could just melt into a puddle on the floor and evaporate so that this horrible encounter can just be over…

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I have a friend–an artist–who keeps a journal. That’s a fairly common thing for people to do, but this friend of mine has kept a journal almost every day for the last fifteen years. He has filled well over two dozen of them, and I’m talking about the great big, acid-free bound ones, the kind used for archiving. I’ve seen them lined up on the shelves at his house, and while some people might think, “this guy is obsessed with himself,” I know he’s not. What he is obsessed with is building.

Let me explain. For my friend, journaling isn’t just documenting. It’s an act of slowly building a creation. Recently he took some of the images out of his journal and recreated them in a larger format, painting the images on actual doors. Now they aren’t simply journal entries, but beautiful and fascinating works of art. So that act…

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It was finished in a burst of emotion. It was done. It was over, and you were left to begin again. You were left to pick up the pieces of your broken heart, to somehow try and put it back together. You were a mess. You were a broken, awful mess. You couldn’t even walk down the block to the Walgreens without feeling like you were going to break down in the middle of the street.

You screamed. And then you felt okay, but actually, you weren’t – because it was still all so new. You were new to the fact that this person had removed themselves from your life and you were expected to just be okay with it. You were far from okay with it. You were hurting everywhere and you hated it.

You cried on the floor of you apartment when you had too much wine…

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In general, people are not drawn to perfection in others. People are drawn to shared interests, shared problems, and an individual’s life energy. Humans connect with humans. Hiding one’s humanity and trying to project an image of perfection makes a person vague, slippery, lifeless, and uninteresting.

Robert Glover

I assure you, I’m not put together at all. Nor am I broken. I’m recovering – finding the beautiful in the ugly and stitching it into my life.


I wish I could have lived my life without making any wrong turns. But that’s impossible. A path like that doesn’t exist. We fail. We trip. We get lost. We make mistakes.

Natsuki Takaya

No matter who you are, no matter what you did, no matter where you’ve come from, you can always change, become a better version of yourself.


Am I a good person? Deep down, do…

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